On this episode of The BMC Podcast, the podcast where I help you supercharge your charisma and people skills, I have my friend Paul Sanders (@PaulSandersSCP) from Get The Friends You Want.
Paul Sanders is author of Get The Friends You Want.
He helps people overcome social hesitation, master conversation and social skills, make friends, and build a social circle.
In an age where human connection seems to be tipping more screen than face, I think honing your friendship skills is only getting more important—especially if you're working remotely or starting a business and don’t have the traditional 9-5 office culture to fall back on.
In this conversation, we talk about how to build a friendship circle, how to easily connect and build rapport with many different types of people, books on social dynamics, and much more.
Free Gift for BMC Listeners:
Highlights:
11:45 - Paul’s advice on how to make friends and build a friendship circle.
25:00 - The compound effect of stacking different people skills.
28:09 - Acquire new knowledge and culture so that you’ll be able to connect with many different types of people.
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Show Notes & Links:
03:35 - Paul’s origin story.
09:40 - Book Mentioned: Vagabonding by Rolf Potts.
09:40 - 5 Travel Lessons You Can Use at Home.
10:59 - Mindsets follow action.
11:45 - Paul’s advice for building a friendship circle.
13:51 - Paul’s skills for friendship.
14:05 - How to feel at home wherever you are.
15:30 - The power of Meetup.com.
17:50 - How to stop social hesitation.
19:39 - Why it’s important to focus on action.
21:00 - What to small talk about after you meet someone new.
25:00 - The compound effect of stacking different people skills.
28:09 - Acquire new knowledge and culture so that you’ll be able to connect with many different types of people.
36:45 - Books Mentioned: Adult Friendship, The Social Animal, and Never Eat Alone.
39:15 - Crucial points of friendship, building rapport, and hook points.
44:30 - How to cultivate a strong personality and values.
54:30 - Paul’s free gift for BMC listeners: 7 Most Common Mistakes People Make When They Try To Improve Their Social Life (And How To Avoid Them).
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