On this episode of the Become More Compelling Podcast, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Rob Riker (@robertgriker) from The Social Winner.
Over the last few months, I've seen a lot of questions about making friends:
- "How do I make friends?"
- "How can I build my friendship circle?"
- "What's the best way to make plans with a new friend?"
This podcast will answer all these questions and more. If you've ever wanted a solid strategy around making new friends and connections, this podcast episode is for you.
After listening, you'll be able to make new friends on command.
Rob has been featured in Business Insider, Lifehack, The Friend Formula, and Tiny Buddha.
I like Rob's insights on friendship and creating a fulfilling, lasting social circle:
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Get Rob's free 8-lesson course on how to make new friends this month here.
Highlights:
19:56 - How to bridge the gap between acquaintances and meeting up a second time.
26:15 - The crucial time to swap contact info.
34:29 - Should you initiate plans with friends or wait for them to initiate plans?
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Show Notes:
05:00 - Rob’s origin story.
07:45 - Rob discovers Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki.
08:59 - The power of a growth mindset vs. a fixed mindset. Person mentioned: Carol Dweck.
12:20 - Book mentioned: The Game by Neil Strauss.
13:02 - Book mentioned: Yes Man by Danny Wallace.
14:55 - Rob starts to see success while saying yes to more events.
18:01 - The value of serendipity.
19:56 - How to bridge the gap between acquaintances and meeting up a second time.
21:31 - The Soft Invite: Common interests are a great way to segue into making plans for the future.
23:50 - The subtle art of gauging reaction to the soft invite.
26:15 - The crucial time to swap contact info.
29:35 - What to do after you swap contact info.
32:40 - Why less is more when it comes to making plans and developing friendships.
34:29 - Should you initiate plans with friends or wait for them to initiate plans?
39:40 - Looking for good things vs. bad things.
43:01 - How to nurture a friend circle.
46:35 - Go to the right places to meet the right people.
48:00 - Book mentioned: The Like Switch by Jack Schafer.
1:02:00 - Rob's free resource for BMC readers: Free 8-lesson email course that will help you make new friends this month.
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