On this episode of the podcast, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Kyle Ingham, founder of The Distilled Man.
Kyle is awesome. He has the poise and style of Don Draper and the wit and charm of Ryan Reynolds. (A winning combo for sure.)
In this wide-ranging conversation, we tackle how to make great first impressions, how to be likable, how to build rapport, negative self-talk, giving effective feedback at work, cocktails, and much more.
Kyle has been featured in the San Francisco Examiner, Forbes, The Good Men Project, among others.
This excellent guide covers how to cook a steak, get a shirt tailored, make a Manhattan, and much more.
Highlights:
15:29 - How to make a great first impression. Kyle's video on first impressions.
20:31 - How to get out of your head and be more present in social situations.
38:01 - How to give feedback at work that makes both people feel good.
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Show Notes:
04:27 - Kyle's origin story.
09:40 - How to strategically avoid overthinking and consuming too much information.
15:29 - How to make a great first impression. (FYI: Here's my Quick Guide on Making Fantastic First Impressions)
20:31 - How to get out of your head and be more present in social situations.
31:45 - Subtle ways to build rapport.
35:08 - Lessons from improv. (Say "yes, and...")
37:00 - Stop words vs. Go words.
38:01 - How to give feedback at work that makes both people feel good. (No "sh*t sandwiches" here.)
40:12 - How to overcome negative internal self-talk. (Podcast mentioned: Gary John Bishop on the *Distilled Man* podcast.)
43:34 - The benefits of meditation and mindfulness. (Apps mentioned: Oak and Headspace.)
49:55 - How to let emotions pass. (Flush Fix Forget.)
57:17 - Theodore Roosevelt: Man in the Arena.
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