What do LeBron James, Serena Williams, and Mike Trout all have in common?
They all make millions of dollars by tossing or hitting a ball?
Close.
They all have coaches.
Behind every top performer someone who can give that person perspective that they need.
Sure, pro athletes have coaches, but what if you're wanting to perform at a high level in your business, career, or social life?
Is there such a thing as a social confidence coach?
Absolutely.
Cough...I am one...cough.
I want to walk you through 4 ways a social confidence coach can help you level up your social skills.
1. A Social Confidence Coach Will Help You Set Clear Goals
The first question to ask yourself is: "Where do I feel like I need help?"
Many of my private coaching clients come to me because they tend to overthink in social situations, and they know that what they've tried in the past (reading books or articles) just isn't working.
In many cases, my clients need help in getting outside perspective on how they approach conversations, meetings, and other social situations. We always set clear goals before working together.
Think about what your goals are. One of the first questions I'll ask someone interested in coaching is: "Where do you want your social skills to be in 3-6 months?"
Some people struggle with having a smooth conversation, others want to rapidly build rapport so that they can do better in their career.
Everyone's goals are a little different. A good coach can even help you clarify your goals.
After clear goals are set, that's when the fun part starts...
2. A Social Confidence Coach Will Hold You Accountable
One of the best things a coach can help you with is holding you accountable for your own improvement.
When my clients know that we have a call scheduled, they feel extra motivated to take action on their goals.
Then, on the call, we'll talk about their successes or where they struggled.
Studies have suggested that accountability can help people increase their chance of success by up to 95% if they have a scheduled accountability meeting.
3. A Social Confidence Coach Can Help You See The Future
Here's something I don't see talked about very much. A good coach can help you see the future.
No Marty, put away the flux capacitor.
You only have your experience being you. You don't know what it's like being anyone else. So that new social strategy you're thinking of testing out, you really have no Idea if it'll actually work.
But a coach recommending a strategy that they've seen work many times is a different story.
The reality is, as much as we'd love to think that we're all 100% unique, if something works for most people, it's likely that it will work for you too.
With a coach, you can go into social situations with confidence, knowing that you have a solid, tested strategy.
Okay, so what makes a good social confidence coach?
4. Mediocre Coaches Give Tactic After Tactic, Great Coaches Help You Dig For The Answer
If you're kicking around the idea of hiring a social confidence coach, how the hell can you tell the good coaches from the mediocre?
I have an easy litmus test: Do they carpet bomb you with tactic after tactic?
- "You should say THIS EXACTLY--WORD-FOR-WORD!"
- "You must maintain your frame and dominate by keeping your hand on top during a handshake!" (WTF?)
- "You need to memorize everyone's Myers-Briggs!"
Look, I'll level with you.
Tactics are like candy.
People love candy.
But tactics alone will never give you long-lasting change. It's like slapping paint on a bike with one wheel.
It'll look nice, but it wont get you anywhere.
What great coaches do.
If a coach asks you lots of questions and helps you dig for the answers you need while gently guiding you in the right direction...that's a really good sign.
- "Tell me more about that?"
- "What do you think you could have done differently?"
- "Have you considered XYZ?"
Tactics DO have their place, but when I hear a client say "Oh wow...I've never thought about it like that..." I know we're doing good work.
If you've been thinking about leveling up your social confidence, and you'd like to learn more about my coaching services click here.
3 ways I can help you level up your communication skills:
1. Private Coaching: I’m the secret weapon top Performers at Google, Netflix, and the US Army trust for people skills coaching. Imagine what I can do for you.
2. Social Accelerator: Social Accelerator is my proven self-paced + group coaching system for turning social awkwardness into confidence, overthinking into action, and hesitation into meaningful connections.
3. My group convos audio guide. Join over 5,000 overthinkers who have supercharged their group conversation skills using tested strategies in my 56-minute audio training.
I'm Jeff Callahan
I make it nearly impossible for overthinkers to fail at improving their people skills. (I've helped hundreds of people over the last 10 years)
Want to never run out of things to say in conversation again so you connect with more people and make new friends?
Want to speak up more in important meetings at work so you get promoted faster and have an awesome career?
Want to develop unshakeable social confidence and competence so you can walk into any room and feel like you belong there?
As your coach, I'll help you move forward faster.
